When I went to pick up more heart medication for Amore yesterday, the veterinarian’s face showed pleasant surprise when I told him that he was doing really well. He didn’t question it, didn’t throw anything else out there, and said, “Well, let’s get him some more and go with it then!”
The office was really busy, so I didn’t get a chance to ask him the millions of questions I had about all of it. Since Duke was with me, I did point to him and say, “Should I be worried about this guy?”
He said that this was one of those cases where what we don’t know won’t hurt us. I am ok with that answer.
While I will call and ask a couple more questions for when he has time, I wished I could just have him look at my sutures instead.
I trust him with my dogs and really appreciate that he doesn’t throw a lot of prognosis information out there since animals tend to not follow it anyway.
I wish he could manage my medical care because of how he delivers information. He knows the power planting seeds has.
If the owner believes their canine companion is dying, then they treat the animal differently, and are constantly sending that energy to them. They die soon after.
If the owner believes that anything is possible and treats the animal as the embodiment of spontaneous healing, then the animal lives for a lot longer. Potentially same diagnosis, same circumstances, but different outcomes.
My veterinarian knows all of this, so that makes me wonder why my doctors (not my primary care doc) don’t have any understanding of this for humans. Haven’t they seen the research about what happens in the brain when we imagine the worse possible outcome or the worse possible progressive course?
When the medical doctors and mental health professionals deliver a diagnosis, they also share the typical course of the illness. What they say at that critical time when the patient is eager to be validated that there is a reason they feel crappy, is critical to what happens next.
They plant the seed. The patient goes home and he or she and the whole family and support network then nurture that seed. If the seed is negative or frightening (even though it is typical and realistic) then that is what will follow.
If the seed is neutral like my vet’s always has been with both of my dogs the last ten years, then what follows might still be scary, but there is no seed from a trusted know-it-all in the field planting a negative seed.
Now that he is better than stable, I can start to figure out how I am doing and share that with you. I see the doctor about my stitches today and really wish I could just see my veterinarian.