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Unlikely Gratitude

I have a neighbor who has a little Chihuahua dog and he never kept him on a leash when they were in their front yard.  My boys and I struggled going past the house on our because my boy Amore’ often would get aggressive with other dogs.  When Amore died, Duke met the dog and the dog would often come to the other side of the street to see us on our walks.  Ruby met him too.  The guy seemed like a nice enough guy despite the one negative experience I had.

When I was using the walker and the motorized wheelchair, we didn’t have a choice but to go by his house because the sidewalks on the other street were better and I was less likely to fall.  But we always had to take that chance of the little dog coming and my dog or dogs pulling me off balance.  Once the neighbor yelled at me because I wouldn’t just go on down the same street instead of passing his street.  I yelled back that the sidewalks sucked and that the walker didn’t work well and to please get his dog.

We still exchanged pleasantries after that incident and I had no hard feelings because he couldn’t understand why sidewalks would be a problem or that Amore was often unpredictable—who could who hadn’t had to try using a walker or had a problem dog.

Fast forward from that moment three or four years ago to July 2017.

Hope Fiona and I were walking on a Friday evening past his house, which is our normal route.  I had noticed I hadn’t seen much of him this year and that he appeared to be frail and wasn’t walking that well in the past month I had seen him.  He stops me to tell me he was in a bad car accident in January and when he was having to learn to walk again, his first thought was of me.

He said he remembered me always continuing to walk my dogs whether it was with a wheelchair, a walker or a cane and that he hoped he had the same strength as he was struggling through his recovery.

He shared his journey from wheelchair to walker to cane and was proud to say he was getting around pretty well without the cane now and could walk around the block.  He asked me how I found the strength to do it and continued to say how much he thought of me during and still because he had a tremendous head injury that has to continue to heal.

We talked about muscle memory and physical therapy and water therapy, and even though it was starting to rain and Hope really wanted to walk, we talked about the importance of continuing to move forward no matter what.

He asked me my name because in the 12 years I have passed his house and talked with him, we had never exchanged names.  He thanked me for something I had no idea even happened.

This experience reminded me that I was doing something right in this life, but also reminded me about how someone is always watching you and that making an impact on others’ lives is far bigger than what you deliberately do for someone else.  It is more about who you are and how you are while you are doing the simple, routine things in this life that has just as much of an impact.

 

 

Challenge Completed!

Open Hearts=Open Doors

I feel a great sense of relief to have made it through the entire 30 day writing challenge, but I have to say that I also am a little bit sad about it being over.

Some friends asked me Saturday if I planned to continue blogging every day after the challenge was over, and I quickly (and without any thought) said, “Nope.”  It hasn’t been as easy as it might seem to come up with a worthwhile and coherent post each day, although my days are not without the inspiration to write several different posts.

I have enjoyed the challenge of it most of all because I wasn’t sure I could rise to the occasion, nor was I all that sure I wanted to do it when it began.  I took it five days at a time, as that was all I had originally committed to once it began.  It is easier to commit to something in short increments for me (and most people).

I have enjoyed getting back into the habit of writing daily and making something (I hope) to be of value to others using words.

Writing definitely helps me to stay grounded and no matter where I start when I write, I can almost always find a positive spin by the time I am finished.  If I cannot, then I must not be finished, so I just keep going until it happens.

November has been full of lessons for me.  Each of those lessons has directed me back to the basics and back to being grounded and focused.  Writing each day has certainly helped reframe some of the less pleasant lessons of the month, while truly enhancing the more pleasant ones.

I have enjoyed reading the posts from my fellow Team Peppers and have some new bloggers to follow that I wouldn’t have otherwise found.  I have found beauty and value in situations and individuals that were initially a challenge, and I probably wouldn’t have made such a conscious effort to do so had I not felt the need to create an experiment to look harder for it.

I am grateful for my favorite Dino Rara for leading the charge with the team of tiny peppers and I am grateful for each one of you for cheering me on through the month.  Clicking “Like,” posting a comment, sending a text, or telling me in person definitely goes a long way!

At the end of 30 days, I feel more grateful.  I feel more grounded and more connected to all things in my world—near and far.

Thank you all for playing from the bottom on my heart!  I cannot promise to write for you every day, but I can promise to do better than I have in recent months.  I am confident in my ability to do weekly posts after doing it daily for so long.

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Thanks to You Day!

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Today, I sincerely wish each and every one of you and heart genuinely overflowing with gratitude!

 

 

 

Day 26

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May we all feel loved

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It is the eve of the day set aside to give thanks.  It is day 25 of the writing challenge.  It is my sister friend’s birthday.  It is a beautiful full moon.  It is day 2 of my positive experimentation.

It is the second day in a row that I have seen one of my favorite toddler sisters.  It is the day that will go down in history as having had the best-prepared collard greens EVER.

My experiment is going well so far and I have only had one instance where I struggled to find something positive about someone.  I haven’t done that well in sharing the positives that I see, so I will work on that tomorrow.  It is quite amazing how much good and how much common ground we can find when we are looking for it.

Today didn’t exactly go how my work calendar said it should, but it was a day to be grateful for just the same.

As the moon sets tomorrow morning, the sun rises, and we all prepare to spend time with family and friends, it is my hope that we can all celebrate one another for all the good we recognize in each other.

And that such love and gratitude can ripple out to those who will be struggling during this holiday because.  May we all feel love and appreciated tomorrow (and every day).

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Grateful for you

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So far, during this writing challenge, I have miscounted which day of the challenge it was—twice– and completely forgot to title a post once.  Just the same, I am pleased with myself that I have been able to keep up with the blogging daily!

It is almost the time of the year where I spend many moments amid the whirlwind of holidays reflecting on the year to see what I want to do differently in the upcoming year.  It is nice to feel more grounded heading into that because of daily writing.

And it is nice to feel grounded heading into the first holiday, which happens to be my favorite one.  No matter how I feel about the original reason for celebrating this week’s holiday, or the commercialization since, it is still my favorite day to celebrate.

It is one day of the year where we are counting our blessings and giving thanks.  I often wonder what would happen if we did this every single day of our lives instead of just setting aside one day to share with each other why we are thankful.

When we are only focused on what we feel we deserve or what we don’t have in this life, we completely cannot see all that is in front of us for which we could be grateful.  Gratitude for me is one of my greatest allies against fear and negativity.

My hope is that Thursday (or perhaps the entire week) all of us focusing on our blessings just might shift the tide of fear, anger or sadness.  Being grateful doesn’t mean we aren’t aware of the ills, it just means we are choosing not to allow those to rob us from our present.

Today, I am grateful for a Team of Tiny Peppers out there that I haven’t even met outside of the blogosphere.  I am grateful for a writing challenge that has served to help me stay focused and rooted in the mission.  Today I am grateful for you.

Happy Day 22 (I am pretty sure) and Happy Be Thankful Week!

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Gratitude aka Veteran’s Day

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Our ability to move forward into something more positive is directly proportionate to our ability to let go of the fear.

For many moments so far this week, I have forgotten how I learned to have a cooperative relationship with my fear because I believe it is serving to protect and to help me to grow forward.  Fortunately, I wrote an entire Fear Series here several years ago to remind me.

And because of that I am grateful.  In the course of a nine-hour period, I have almost taken back my personal power as a result.  For that, it has allowed me to feel a great deal of gratitude for so much.

Because it is also Veteran’s Day, I am also grateful for all of those Veterans I have had the honor to meet and my favorite of those I have had the honor to love and to be loved by throughout my life—my father.

May all of you feel the love and feel the power that love holds for you in your courage, bravery, sacrifice and ultimately in your healing for those sacrifices.

Happy Veteran’s Day!  Remember you are loved and supported by so many of us!

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