In holiday zombie mode, we are more likely to go back to old patterns of behavior whether we mean to do so or not. It all starts with the old patterns of thinking we have about holidays, family, loss, etc. and quickly turns into some sort of unhealthy obsessive or compulsive behavior.
This sort of thing can go unnoticed because it is the time of the year where it is socially acceptable (and encouraged in our society) to spend more money than we have, and eat and drink more than we need.
Back in my holiday zombie days, even when I knew I needed to do something differently to break those patterns, I found it almost impossible to find the motivation and drive to do it. I can remember the exact year I figured out how to do it anyway. My zombie-hazed brain didn’t realize that simplifying the goal and making the change very small would make a big difference until that year.
Holidays are temporary. Shifting my thoughts to “get” that made a difference. Although that wasn’t always enough to make it through. From there, I eventually realized that holidays can be enjoyed whether it is the “ideal” holiday scenario. No matter where I am or who I am with, or not with, there can actually be enjoyment celebrating a holiday.
Seriously, there can be if we decide it can be. I have celebrated many more holidays without family than with them. The ones I spent wishing I was with family (or had family that didn’t make the holidays crazytown) weren’t as enjoyable because I was wishing I was somewhere else. If I wish I am somewhere else, there is no chance I can find pleasure where I am—that is a fact.
Next time I will share another zombie-proof holiday trick I have learned. In the meantime, please continue to share how you get through the holidays—no matter what your experience is. Even the happiest of holidays often is hectic or includes notable losses. My hope is to get every one of us through the holiday season without being any worse for the wear on the other side, so any thoughts are considered helpful.